The balls factor IS the secret to a fulfilling life. There is NO other way but to break on through the fear. Feel the fear and do it anyway! Punks! Watch all 5 parts…
THE TWELVE STEPS OF SLAVES OF FEAR ANONYMOUS
1. We admitted we were powerless over fear—that our lives had become
unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to
fearlessness.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we
understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature
of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make
amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do
so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly
admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with
God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us
and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to
carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our
affairs.
You can also change the word fear for anything that’s bothering you, like “We admitted we were powerless over THAT HOT CHICK” and that our lives had become unmanageable. Then move through the steps… As you can see, you need to be open to a spiritual way, if not this may not help you, or maybe you can just replace words within these steps to make you feel comfortable. Whatever it takes to break on through to the other side…
This is going to be expanded on greatly one of these days but this is a start of the idea…
Now if you can do this you have balls of steel…
If you’re gonna mumble… do it with authority!
Here’s another one just for giggle, and a hot chicks in it. 
Now if you’re in southern California and you are looking for a support group to help you with women, and learning how to have balls in any occasion you have to check out the Casanova Crew. These guys are real, and they are very active about getting together and helping each other work on their lives, and “game”. They go out together, converse in a great forum online, and I think the guys are able to grow in leaps in bounds quicker than they ever would by themselves.
Now the guy who started it all does a nice little podcast, mostly once a week or so, and it’s always jam packed with awesome information, fo free of course…. listen up 
I listen to this whole interview last night with Adam Lyons, who is supposed to be one of the best in the biz. He was having a conversation with the DayGame.com guys and there were a few great gems that came out of it. Have a listen…
Listen to it here for free – I like free… don’t you?
I’ve been getting the Cliffs List newsletter for years now, and every once in a while I will read it and I am soooo glad I read it today. After reading it I was standing up straighter, talking louder and had a general feeling of being able to take on the world! Great stuff…
Zardoz:
1. DO SOMETHING … ANYTHING !
Paralysis–a sad phenomenon. You see her, you groan, she passes into
memory. You intended to approach her. You’ve approached in the
past. Why freeze now ? What is it … fear, or laziness ?
Fear (in seduction) is the anticipation of a negative consequence.
Pause. The key word here is, “Anticipation,” or, “What might happen
if ?” What if I look bad ? What if I screw up ? What if aliens
steal my balls to create a clone army ?
The best seducers don’t plan … they act. It goes like this:
See girl
Smile
Stand straight
Move left foot
Move right foot
Open Mouth
Words emerge
Repeat 10,000 times.
Laziness is taking the small reward over the big reward. The big
reward takes too much effort. So much so that it seems a foggy
dream. It’s much easier to play video games, or whack off. Ahh.
Your little pleasure-seeking brain is constantly searching for the
easy route. It will even provide you with valid reasons: “Hey
buddy. You need to save your money. You should get rest for work
anyway. You can go out next weekend when the weather is better. You
need some new clothes, by the way. And a haircut ! Just wait till
that next seminar … that will give you the boost you need ! Gonna
lose twenty pounds first. She looks like a bitch anyway … blah,
blah, blah.”
That’s your little guy. I call him The Eternal Virgin. He’s a great
speaker. Bigger than Tony Robbins.
“Thinking” is bad. We ask ourselves a simple question like, “What
could happen ?” The Eternal Virgin loves the path of least
resistance … “Fight or flight ?” He says, “Duh … I need a drink.
Here buddy, before you approach, let me just show you this list of
reasons and possibilities.”
Look at your life as a movie. How far has doing nothing taken you ?
How far has thinking taken you ? What a boring movie you’ve become.
I want my money back.
Guys always ask me where I found the drive, the time, the passion
to go out night after night after night to approach thousands of
women. I’ve thought long and hard about why I was so successful
where most others gave up and failed.
I had a secret best friend. The greatest wingman in the history of
the Universe:
My imagination.
I envision a life with beautiful women. Where I bask like a movie
star. Where I dine at hip parties and command social power. Desire
is all the motivation I require. Desire got me dressed. Desire got
me to the club. Desire had me approach the girls. Desire had me
write this article.
That was all the “thinking” I required. The rest was “action.”
Don’t think ! Do. The more you think, the more power you give The
Eternal Virgin. That guy doesn’t create, only absorbs. One hell of
a critic, too.
Note: this doesn’t exclude planning. Know your course. But put the
map away.
I don’t live like a movie star quite yet. But I have learned to
tell The Eternal Virgin to shut up; I’ve got my own story to tell.
I’m the head writer. I spent years learning tricks to shut him up.
If there are no women in your social circle, you are going to have
to approach new ones. There is no magic spell of motivation. You
must find it within.
2. SLOUCHY MC SLOUCHERSON
On your first plunge from a diving board, a shrinking sensation
kidnaps your abdomen. Your shoulders contract, you slouch forward
to protect your vital organs–it’s the same.
It looks terrible–like a dog with his tail tucked. To correct your
posture, practice gazing like a bulimic plastic surgery failure
into windows and mirrors. After years, I still catch myself
slouching. It just looks bad. Develop your muscle memory–the one
that stands tall and proud.
We love to hide our hands deep in pockets, (so cold in the club!)
or keep them busy playing with pens, cigarettes–anything within
reach. This is how we dispel our nervous energy–don’t. It looks
bad. To a woman, these unconscious behaviors scream, “I am a snake
that can’t shed his skin. I hate my skin. Who lies more, men or
women ?”
Don’t nod your head when you talk, don’t play with your hair, don’t
chew your nails. The list goes on.
Pay attention to your body language. Ask your friends if they
notice anything that projects insecurity. Then take steps to
correct it.
3. ROAR LIKE A LION
Loud men get laid. Girls aren’t attracted to pipsqueaks. I know
Hollywood movies love the cute, shy guy that manages to get the
girl because she finally realizes how charming and caring he is.
Fuck Hollywood. Those scripts are written by nerds who don’t get
laid. Be loud.
Go to a public gathering, look out over the crowd and yell
something at the top of your lungs. I dare you. If you can’t
project your voice under social pressure, you are in for a long,
sad ride. Lube up that real doll.
Imagine a guy whispering, “Hi … I just wanted to meet you.” And
then imagine another guy with a booming voice, “Hi. I just wanted
to meet you.” Even though the line sucks, you can imagine the
difference for a first impression.
Like all of these tips, guys read and forget. They have no idea. In
your head you are roaring. On boot camps I get guys yelling animal
noises and have them do it over, and over, and over. For many, it’s
one of the hardest exercises.
The guys that learn to get loud have greater success in faster
time. Get loud !
4. TOUCH THE GIRL, DAMMIT !
You need to get physical. You can’t wait until the end of the date
to finally give her a hug and kiss. Get that stuff out of the way
from, “Hello.” Hell, you don’t even need to say hello. Let your arm
do the talking. Touch her !
Instead of saying something witty, just grab her shoulders or
waist. Do this fifty times, and see what happens. Chances are …
nothing bad will happen. Actually, something great will happen–you
will learn an epic life lesson. You can do anything you want within
the law !
For myself, it was frustrating because I would talk and talk, but
the girls weren’t coming with me. When I started getting a lot more
physical, it translated into more attraction. Physical game rules.
How to learn physical game ? Go out and try it. It’s the only way.
Learning to get physical is the easiest route to success with
women. On my nights out, I spend a great deal of time on this
subject. For example, if I see a guy idly talking to a girl, I will
literally lift his hand and put it around her shoulder.
“That’s not good game !”
Sure it’s not. Tell yourself a story–it becomes real ! Are you
Harry Potter ?
5. I’M A DOUCHE !
“I don’t care what people think about me.”
I’m sorry–you care. We all do. We are hard wired to care.
Fortunately, we can bury this social instinct deep down in a well
called “Freedom.” Many guys won’t practice approaching because they
worry what other will think about them. “Oh he’s a creep !” Hey,
let them call you what they want. They will still be calling you
names while you eat whipped cream off your girlfriend’s breasts.
Look at celebrities: we don’t admire them for looks alone. We
respect their drive to step outside the box … to be different and
live life. Look at rock stars: they don’t conform; they celebrate
their unique style. They say and do whatever they want–and we love
them for it.
Practice silencing your inner critic (when he’s not needed). Stop
wondering what people think about you. Be aware that every action
has a consequence–don’t be an idiot and break any laws–but free
yourself from the norms. Live the life you desire.
Practice !
Seduction isn’t something you learn in a month. It takes
dedication. If you really want to knock years off your learning
curve, you could get professional coaching.
You have the ability to be great. Now go do some approaches, or
clean your room, or something.
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Pretty self explanatory but something that I personally need to be reminded of. When trying to muster up the balls to talk to the hottest girl in the room, just think of this statement…
